5 Steps to being a good boyfriend

Men are always saying that women speak an entirely different language; they are impossible to understand, women can never be made happy, oh my girlfriend is just high maintenance, blah blah blah. Well I have some advice for all you struggling men, it's not that hard to make your woman happy if you simply learn to 'speak their language,' and follow a few easy steps. As a humanist, I'm going to share with you men five secrets to make your women happier, so listen up guys!!! I'm throwing you a lifeline.

It is my number one belief that you men have no idea how insecure us women are, we spend so much time time trying to maintain ourselves, whether its spending two hours on our hair, or plucking those annoying hairs out of our eyebrows to try and make them perfect. So let me tell you, beauty is pain, and we do it for you!!! The best thing you can possibly do for your girlfriend is to constantly tell her how gorgeous she is, and use words such as beautiful or stunning, its much sweeter than saying 'hot.' They say that food is the way to a man's heart, well compliments are the way to a women's heart. Also, if you start to notice she is getting a little chunky, or her makeup is patchy, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING!!! Trust me, your better off saying that you need some air and ask her if she would like to go for a walk, or say something along the lines of, "You know I was just looking at you and really,you don't need to wear that much make up, you look great as you are."

Appreciate, Appreciate, Appreciate!!! Everything that she does for you, don't ever take your girlfriend for granted. Begin to realize that she does so many little things for you, like sticking loving notes on the fridge ,because she does love or care about you, and it's her way of saying 'you mean a lot to me, please appreciate me back.' Often you men fail to appreciate this and it gets really disappointing for us girls, so please notice the little things, it goes such a long way, and then you will begin to receive even more. *wink*

WE LOVE SURPRISES!!! Everyone knows that at the beginning of a relationship is the honeymoon period, and that's when the guy will start buying flowers and all the rest of it. But once he knows he has the girl hooked, he begins to stop, and for us it sucks, because it feels like he doesn't care anymore. For us girls, surprises mean so much, it shows us you care and it helps to keep us happy, and I'm not saying they have to be expensive surprises. Sometimes, its just nice if you clean the house and light some candles and run a hot bath, asking for a romantic dance, cooking dinner, taking us somewhere special, etc. Bottom note, you will find it will pay off, in more ways than one, and you get the satisfaction of making us happy.

Don't ever have expectations that just because we are women that we are going to pick up after you and perform the role of your mother. The fact is that its the twenty first century and we are all equal. We are sick of being put into the role of the 'housekeeper,' don't assume that just because we dont have the same parts as you, that we are your slave, its not fair on us. Learn to pick up your own stuff, take care of yourselves and don't expect us to do it for you!!!

For goodness sakes, learn to talk about your emotions, us women are so sick of having to constantly extract information on how you are feeling. For example, why you are so quite, why you suddenly changed your plans for a date or why you are avoiding communication. Let me put it simply, GROW UP!!! As a human being we all need to talk about our feelings, and life is life, sometimes it makes us happy, sometimes it makes us sad. There is nothing wrong with being emotional, the stereotype of a man having to be tough and not talk about his feelings is so thirty years ago, I say it takes more of a man to talk, rather than suppress. In general, women have more respect for men that speak up, rather than those who play games, stuff us around or play with our emotions.

I would love to hear from every one else out there, tell me if you think Ive missed anything :) or even disagree